It’s a Wrap: Let’s Review and Reflect

It’s been wonderful to adventure together for the past 30 days. I love hosting consciousness shifting and life activation events. It is my honor and joy to guide you through the grand adventure. I trust you are feeling more embodied with your self care, and even masterful!

I’ve hosted around 14 of these 30-Day Events in the past 9 years and have found them to be one of the most powerful playgrounds for transformation and evolution.

The beauty of a 30-Day program is three-fold. You get to:

1. Explore. It provides consistent focus on your intention. You get to frame your starting point and set your sights on what you’re wanting to create.

2. Experience. 30 days gives you a time-tested capsule to try some things on, see what works and what doesn’t. It helps you identify the raw materials to craft your creation.

3. Express. It gives you an opportunity to create a living canvas for your creations. You come up with new ways of being and seeing. You come up with your own very specific ways to activate your intentions.

The added benefit is that you get to do all of this with an experienced facilitator and an aligned community. Often, someone else’s ideas and insights spark your own. Chances are you did more than you would have done all by yourself.

Your final step on our adventure together would be to capture the essence of your experience. Journaling and feedback are great ways to do this. Journaling is essential because it helps you to articulate what you’ve just experienced.

Writing about your experience is powerful because it makes it tangible. It’s no longer an idea, feeling or insight. You have now captured it. You claim it and name it. I encourage you to journal about your experience of the 30-Day Self Care Jumpstart. It will help you glean the gifts and empower you on your self care adventure.

I would appreciate your feedback, too. It helps me to hone my programs and it also helps others decide whether this kind of work is helpful for them. Deep thanks!

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Thanks SO much for your delicious collaboration. It helps shape the ground we walk on.

Till next time!

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How to Embrace the Magic of Endings and Beginnings

Life is a continual cycle of endings and beginnings. This ‘let go and begin again’ is something we should be quite practiced in by now. 

Beginnings are exciting. They’re full of promise, excitement, and an opportunity for change, but greeting the new also means saying goodbye to what you know.

  • Saying goodbye to old habits, brings up the uncertainty of ‘what now?’
  • Leaving an old relationship, stirs up personal reflection and changes
  • Choosing to eat healthier means letting go of your fave junk comfort foods

Leaving the old you behind can be a painful process. You feel bereft of what’s familiar and comfortable as you move into the unknown. Beginnings become joyful, painful, exciting and uncertain all at once.

You could stay focused on all of the newness to avoid the wistful goodbyes, but then you miss honoring the very best parts of what came before. By acknowledging the joy and the sorrow, you can bring your loves and lessons into your new beginning.

Ends are not bad things, they just mean that something else is about to begin. And there are many things that don’t really end, anyway, they just begin again in a new way. Ends are not bad and many ends aren’t really an ending; some things are never-ending.
~ C. JoyBell C.

Whether you eagerly embrace this renewing cycle, or find yourself dragging your feet on the road to the new, here are 7 guiding lights to lead you on a powerful adventure:

1. Get the Gift. Don’t move on before you extract the gold from the old. Take a moment to journal about it, write a top 5 list or lessons learned. When you write things down you bring them into consciousness. You get to acknowledge the growth and get the gifts.

2. Let go of what you don’t control. Sometimes you choose the ending and sometimes the ending chooses you. You don’t always have control of the chess board but you do move the pieces. Choose to act on what you can and let go of the rest. It’s not yours to handle.

3. Embrace the moment. This is one of those things that sometimes baffle. How do you do it? Here are 3 simple ways to instantly be in the moment: (1) Spend time focusing on the inflow and outflow of your breath, (2) Commune with nature by going to your favorite place that fills you with wonder and awe, (3) Be with ones you love. Love is the thread that unites all of these. Be love and you’re here. 

4. Pause often. Take breaks from your thinking and your doing and allow yourself to be. Change can feel chaotic and stressful. When you take a break from it all you can rest in the moment which replenishes your being. Now you can venture into the unknown with confidence and care.

5. Take a chance. Life is full of risks. If you keep saying “No!” you’ll never know what delights await you. The magic happens in uncharted territory. If you’re in the land of what you know you’ll never experience the landscape of possibility.

6. Notice small shifts. Beginnings and endings aren’t always black and white. Notice small shifts in your thinking, feeling and actions. If you pay attention, you can probably notice tiny beginnings and endings all the time. Let them help you navigate the bigger stuff. Give yourself a high-five!

7. Be willing. You might not be ready for something new, but when it’s time, it’s time. Let go of your need to hold on to the past or attempt to control the future. It’s usually completely out of your hands. Instead, simply be open to letting things unfold. Surrender what you know, for what you don’t know. It’s seeking you too.

Life’s adventure is full of twists and turns. Often you don’t know what’s next. You have no clue how things will turn out. You have no idea what’s down the road, or who you’re becoming. No one knows, really. Isn’t this the nature of an adventure?

Endings and beginnings are bittersweet. They’re also turning points on your evolutionary adventure. When you embrace endings and beginnings as the crossroads of your adventure, magic is possible.

The most authentic endings are the ones which are already revolving towards another beginning. That’s genius.
~ Sam Shepard

Whatever ending or beginning is at hand for you, allow yourself to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it. Celebrate each ending and beginning. Honor them and they will shape the context, if not the content, of your adventure. Relish them both!

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What to Do When Things Fall Apart

Self care is the beginning of a lifelong adventure. We have only just begun!

You awaken to the majesty of life and your unique part in it. You stop treating yourself as an afterthought and begin to cherish yourself on a regular basis. You become as precious as those people and things you value most. 

You start introducing small changes to better care for yourself…

You start your day with reflection, perhaps meditation or journaling.
You begin to move your body again, walking or doing yoga.
You add healthier foods to every meal.
You relish and make time for your self care rituals.

It feels good, it feels right. It’s as if you’ve tapped into a vein of truth that has always been with you. And you have.

But it’s not all sunshine and roses. Inevitably, when you embark on the self care adventure things fall apart.

It might be a small rift in your world, like an unwelcome insight that was already lurking in the recesses of your mind but you weren’t ready to admit it to yourself because that would mean you’d have to change something you’d rather not do right now.

Or, it might be something bigger, like the loss of a relationship. You might spiral into forgetfulness and suffer. You might wonder why on earth did you ever go down this path. After all, self care was supposed to make your world better!

“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again. ”

~ Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

It isn’t always easy to navigate the seas of change but it is always, always worthwhile. Here are three things to buoy you during times of turbulence:

1. Connect to your inner wisdom. Still the tsunami of emotions with your breath. Breathe deeply, fully. Take it all in and welcome it. Let it move you and shape you into a new being. Feel yourself embraced, in the arms of a loving universe. You are SO loved and so essential to the fabric of Life.

2. Share with a power pal. Sometimes all you need is a loving witness to line things up. A power pal is one who sees you truly. No victims or, “Poor baby!” here. My community is full of these awesome folks. Join the conversation and start connecting one on one with high frequency beings. You will find plenty of power pals here, guaranteed.

3. Act as if. Imagine that you are already the person you are longing to be. You are self expressed, emotionally resilient, infinitely creative. Pick your characteristics. Whatever it is that you are seeking to embody, invite it in right now. Call the full force of that energy into being and allow it to guide you in your thinking, feeling and actions. Be that being now.

Listen up, darlings! Self care is a deep journey. It is an awakening. It is good news that things are falling apart. Use your power of meaning maker and story shaper. Shift the framework of what you are experiencing and see the possibility.

(This is a practice that gets easier. Always choose to see the possibility, not the problem!)

We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.

~ Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Hard Times

Great things are at hand when your world falls apart. It is a clean canvas upon which to create the new.

Self care is the foundation for an extraordinary life. You were designed for greatness. Unleash the genius that lives within and bring that being to Life!

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5 Reasons Nature is Good For You

Rambling rivers and towering trees, colorful canyons and babbling brooks, stirring up those images alone feels wonderful. Remember the last time you were in a natural environment – whether you were visiting a national forest, a beach or lake, or your own local park – didn’t the rapture of it leave you speechless? Nature calms the chaos, stirs your heart and soothes your spirit. Your body and being recognize kinship.

What is it that sets natural environments apart from others? Why shouldn’t a quiet streetscape have the same effect as a quiet natural landscape? While it was difficult to prove the benefits of nature 100 years ago, today this perennial wisdom is supported by compelling evidence. A steadily growing stack of scientific evidence suggests that nature improves your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.

Natural environments have a unique set of features that set them apart from man made locations. William James, the father of modern psychology, explained that human attention comes in two different forms. The first is directed attention, which enables us to focus on demanding tasks like driving or writing. Directed attention can only be sustained for specific periods before you tire. Reading a book requires directed attention, and you’ll notice that you start to zone out when you’re tired. The second form is involuntary attention, which comes easily and doesn’t require any mental effort at all. Nature falls into this category, it attracts your attention involuntarily.

The earth has music for those who listen.
~ George Santayana

Nature’s Healing Powers

Humankind has spent 99.99 percent of its history living in natural environments. It’s no wonder that healers and physicians have prescribed it for their ailing patients.

Natural environments promote calmness and well-being in part because they expose people to low levels of stress. These stressful experiences are tame in comparison with the tension ofour everyday world -workplace drama, traffic jams, and commuter crush. Humans thrive with some stimulation, but we’re incapable of coping with extreme stressors, which push us from the comfortable realm of eustress (good stress) to the danger zone of distress (bad stress).

In Japan their natural therapy is shinrin-yoku, or forest bathing, which requires that patients walk for extended periods through forested areas. Researchers have found that compared with people who walked through urban areas, shinrin-yoku patients had lower blood pressure, lower pulse rates, and lower cortisol levels, a marker of reduced stress. 

Here’s more evidence that being out in nature does your body, mind and soul some good. According to a 2009 study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, the closer you live to nature, the healthier you’re likely to be. The study found that people who lived within 1 kilometer of a park or a wooded area experienced less anxiety and depression than those who lived farther away from green space.

Live in a city with no green space nearby? No worries! Other studies by researchers in England and Sweden have found that joggers who exercise in a natural green setting with trees, foliage and landscape views, feel more restored, and less anxious, angry and depressed than those runners who burn the same amount of calories in gyms or other urban settings. So even if you have to drive a few miles to find a little green, it’s worth it!

Nature doesn’t just have an effect on the mind. Roger S. Ulrich, PhD, director of the Center for Health Systems and Design at Texas A&M University, has found that nature can help the body heal, too. Ulrich investigated the effect that views from windows had on patients recovering from abdominal surgery. He discovered that patients whose hospital rooms overlooked trees had an easier time recovering than those whose rooms overlooked brick walls. Patients able to see nature got out of the hospital faster, had fewer complications and required less pain medication than those forced to stare at a wall.

There are an abundance of scientific studies detailing the restorative nature of being outdoors. The American Society of Landscape Architects has a wonderful resource page on the health benefits of nature if you’d like to dive more deeply into it.

Here are 5 tried and true reasons why nature is good for you:

1. You experience the beauty of nature. How is such majesty possible? The strength of that mountain, standing there for all those years! The miracle of this single flower, infused with sunlight. The revelation of a tree, rooted deep in the earth, stretching to the sky, and bearing silent witness to the world around it! You feel awe and joy and are whole again.

2. You align with your natural rhythm. Nature models a healthier pace of life. Clocks teach you to abandon the natural rhythms of your body and the Earth and conform to a schedule rooted in an economic system. That creates a lot of stress. Trees and plants grow slowly. Deer graze calmly. Everything moves according to their natural rhythm, and you begin to do the same.

3. You make peace with the cycle of life. Our culture teaches that age and death are to be avoided as long as possible. In nature, you encounter dead trees all the time. And they nurse young plants to life. You walk through a burn area and see a profusion of wildflowers thriving in the newly enriched soil. When you come face to face with death, you value the present moment and experience surges of joy to be alive. Nature eases us into this reality.

4. You remember who you truly are. You feel comfortable in your own skin, you experience your own quiet peace and strength, you sense the inner you that is the true you. The mask you present to the outer world is irrelevant for a time, and put in its proper place.

5. You experience the Divine. Whether you call it God, Earth Mother, the Great Mystery or by another name, nature helps you to connect with this powerful, loving presence. You feel your connection to all living things. You receive guidance and wisdom. Nature brings you closer to your own essence and to the source of all Life.

Nature restores mental functioning in the same way that food and water restore bodies. The business of everyday life – dodging traffic, making decisions, interacting with strangers – is depleting. What man-made environments take away from us, nature gives back.

A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

~ Albert Einstein

Nature re-calibrates your being and brings you back into natural alignment. It mirrors the wonder that lives within and brings tremendous peace and pleasure. Nature has its own power, one that’s easy to honor once you’re ;in its presence. It calls forth your own.

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7 Gifts of Creatively Conscious Community

For a very long time I prided myself on being a solo adventurer, a lone wolf. I relished the feel of moving about my world unencumbered by the expectations and needs of others. I longed for the leeway to find and follow my own inner voice. But the deeper I delved into the evolution of my own being the more I noticed the subtle shifts that occurred when I gathered with other like minded people.

As someone who didn’t quite fit in, I often found it very uncomfortable to connect with many of the communities that I encountered – whether that community were members of my family, groups at school or colleagues at work. Like the scent of hamburgers pulling Wimpie towards his inevitable destination, I found myself over and over again in situations that had me question this assumption of aloneness.

It was in 2001, when I enrolled as a student at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, that the pieces started falling into place. My aloneness was so embedded in my nature that I had to have pep talks with myself to sit next to someone new after every break and start a conversation. As I ventured forth I found that many others felt the same. We were all strange rangers navigating a very lonely landscape.

You may or may not have been born into your tribe of choice. Your family, friends and colleagues may get you. They may not. As someone who is separate from the pack it can be difficult to navigate the cycles of ungroundedness, but nothing will shift your experience faster than an aligned and conscious community.

If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
~ African proverb

Today, as much as I treasure my aloneness, my greater gift is connection and community. Here are 7 gifts of aligned and conscious community:

1. Wisdom.  When you gather with like-minded people the wisdom of your community is greater than your own.  Divergent world views and life experiences provide a richness and depth that gift you a variety of perspectives from which to choose. That’s not even counting the specific expertise that each member brings to the party.

2. Gifts. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out your gifts in isolation. In community there are abundant opportunities to be seen and heard and you’re given the opportunity to discover your gifts and share them with others. This experience alone will help you get rock solid on your gifts and strengths. Plus, the powerful group intention amplifies your purpose and passion and moves you into inspired action. 

3. Leadership. A collaborative community invites you to share in the voice and direction of the group and provides ample opportunities to try out your leadership style.  One of my favorite ways to explore this is to host a writer’s circle. There’s nothing like gathering with other highly aware playmates and engaging in regular inspirational writing. You can do this in person, or you can make it super easy and gather on the phone.

4. Belonging. We all have a primal need to belong, to be a part of something greater than ourselves. When you’re different, it’s an especially precious gift to find others that you can relate to and that totally get who you are. What a treat to discover a community where you can be yourself among others doing the very same thing.

5. Support. There will be days when you falter, lose hope, and your belief in yourself is at low tide. It can seem overwhelming. A like minded community will nourish you and help you handle the dips, as well as celebrate your wins. Some days those big goals just seem impossible. On those days when you most want to give up, you are buoyed by your community. They believe in you, probably more than you believe in yourself.

6. Influence. Communities give you the opportunity to share your influence, to explore a bigger vision than you might be able to execute on your own.  They allow members to explore things with each other they previously wouldn’t have been able to. New ideas, resources, and experiences are shared and discussed leading to community accelerated innovation.

7. Evolution. There is nothing that will stretch the edge of what’s possible for you, and your community, than coming together on an aligned purpose. When you gather in aligned community you are creating a living organism. This is highly organized intelligence at its best. Not only do you grow, so does the entire system.

A group of people coming together in a state of presence generates a collective field of great intensity. It not only raises the degree of presence of each member of the group but also helps to free the collective human consciousness from its current state of mind dominance. This will make the state of presence increasingly more accessible to individuals.

~ Eckhart Tolle

We’re connective creatures by nature. A vibrantly aligned and conscious community not only empowers you but creates transformation for everyone. If you can’t find your kind of crowd, host it! Take the lead and create a community that alivens your experience, inspires your vision and serves your purpose.

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