Self Care Mastery

Lead the Way

Adela Rubio — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:32:13 +0000

Authoritarian leadership is an old paradigm reality. The top down approach, of a leader who is the receptacle of power for a group and the ‘followers’ who vest the leader with power to act in their collective best interest, is swirling in the winds of yesteryear.

What wants to happen now is ‘leaderful-ness.’ It is a quality of participating ‘in leadership’ with others. When you are aware of who you are being, you are no less than masterful of your energy. You know who you are and how to dance with the moment. You engage life.

Each one of you, no matter what the adventure, are in agreement to be fully and brilliantly you. And yet, in this brilliance you are in connection with what wants to happen now. Everyone gets to lead the dance powerfully and passionately, in the streams that are calling you into your knowing.

Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be. Ralph Waldo Emerson

In your own work, in your own community, the call is to lead your tribe into their brilliance. Every member can answer the call to dance delightfully in magnificence, to collaborate consciously and to unleash their essence into this moment. The greatest gift of leaderfulness is to bring others into leading their own energy. You can then meet heart to heart, essence to essence, and share the gift and power of your being with the world.

Image: Desert Leader by Hamed Saber

The Awakening Tribe

Adela Rubio — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 06:00:37 +0000

As I bask in the beauty of our time together I can feel the paradox of completion and new beginnings. Our 30 days have come to a close and a new adventure awaits.

Notice where you were when you began and tap into the shift of Being that has occurred. Awakening is available in every moment. You have only to choose the energy of your Boundless Being and open to the magic of this moment. You are already everything beautiful, brilliant and bold.

A real Master is not a teacher: a real Master is an awakener. His function is totally different from a teacher; his function is far more difficult. And only very few people can stay with a Master because to wake up after millions of lives is not an ordinary feat; it is a miracle. And to allow somebody to wake you up needs great trust, great surrender. Osho

I don’t presume to be a Master, but I certainly aspire to be an awakener. It is my deepest joy and honor to have traveled thirty days with such an extraordinary tribe of adventurers. Your willingness to explore your edge, to open to “YES” and to connect profoundly has given rise to a more conscious community. Together we have seeded a vision into reality. Thank you for your seeing and your being. I know, that in your own unique way, each one of you is of the Awakening Tribe.

Thank you for your trust. Thank you for your presence. Thank you for the gift of YOU.

Namaste.

A Mystical Life

Adela Rubio — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:00:54 +0000

What if it were possible to transcend the mundane and access a mystical life? A mystic is one who, above all else in life, desires to Know, not intellectually but experientially, the deepest Truth of existence. This way of Being is way beyond the surface murmurings of ordinary living. It demands depth of engagement and a yearning for full immersion in the Ecstatic. Mysticism is about how you can come to live within the fullness of your True nature, here and now.

Think of some well known mystics – Hildegard von Bingen, Rumi, St Theresa of Avila, Kabir – their lives were spent seeking the ecstatic communion with the essence of ‘God.’ Their writings speak of ‘God’ as if he were a lover or beloved, so total was their commitment to experiencing the divine in their physical experience.

So too, can you welcome the mystical perspective into your mundane moments and magically shift what’s possible.

The essence of prayer, even of a mystical experience, is the way we are altered to see everything from its life-filled dimension. Matthew Fox

The boundless possibility that awaits you in this moment is to see everything in life from this mystical perspective. Everything is alive and seeking your engagement. In seeing the magic, you bring possibility into being. Your seeing and being create a New You and a New World.

Image: Mystical Tree

Relinquish Protection

Adela Rubio — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 06:00:43 +0000

In many healing traditions practitioners are taught to protect themselves with white light, pyramids, prayers, and grids. I just did a google search and there were 93,400 results for ‘lightworker protection.’

Why protect a lightworker? Protect from what? You are a being of light and yet, in physicality, whatever darkness you experience is as surely contained within you. This realm is a playground of polarities and contrast. The adventure contains it all. Why resist and create a separation between you and ‘you.’ You are ALL of it.

A more radical approach is to be open. Open to the light, open to the dark. Be with it all. Notice and relinquish the urge to set yourself apart. Don’t look for the darkness, but welcome it when it crosses your pathway. The dark informs you, as much as the light, often more. It creates crevices of compassion. It pulsates presence to aspects of you that were once asleep.

Mostly, surrender the illusion of being wounded or hurt. There is NOTHING that can harm a boundless being. In the realm of physicality if you are disconnected from what’s true you cannot access the depth of your being. Your ability to feel profoundly is a doorway to this understanding.

When you disconnect from your ‘true self’ it is equally impossible to connect to another. Whether it’s your relationship with your life partner, your family and friends, or your colleagues and business partners, you won’t be able to connect truly unless you open completely. Pema Chodron, Buddhist nun, sums it up quite clearly:

When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless, that it doesn’t have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space. Pema Chodron

Relinquish protection, open to ALL of it. The Field of Potentiality awaits your engagement.

Beyond the Rules

Adela Rubio — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 06:00:09 +0000

What if you chose to live outside the lines, beyond the rules? You know which rules I’m talking about: the ones that constrict your energy, limit your expression, diminish your power.

Unplugging from the matrix of assumptions, of what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong,’ ’should’ and ‘can’t,’ requires a willingness to curiously question the stirrings within you. You know when the time has come to reassess your buy-in to collective agreements: you feel a certain reluctance to comply, you find reasons not to adhere, you feel a palpable restlessness that cannot be ignored.

Once you unhook from consensus reality you’ll notice the multiple spheres of reality, all existing concurrently. Depending on the ‘rules’ you agree to follow you plug into different worlds. Depending on which world you inhabit, different rules, different laws are in effect.

Your ability to weave reality is dependent on the power of your intention. Intention is an act of personal power and authority. According to Merriam Webster’s dictionary, “Intention is to have in mind a purpose or plan, to direct the mind, to determine mentally upon some action or result.” It is also your ability to direct the energy, sourced from infinite potential.

In the universe there is an immeasurable, indescribable force which shamans call intent, and absolutely everything that exists in the entire cosmos is attached to intent by a connecting link. Carlos Castaneda

Which world you choose to inhabit, the mundane world of cause and effect, or the magnificent realm of conscious creation, is dictated by your repeated intention. Your intention is not unlike the power of wizards and shamans, wielders of source energy.

Access and direct the source energy of your being and co-create a vibrant world. This is the authentic use of your intention. You are a mega being with amazing abilities. Step into your true nature and unleash the power of your dynamic intention.

Transparency: The New Freedom

Adela Rubio — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 06:00:06 +0000

Remember a time when you pretended to be who you were not. Notice what happens when you slather on another layer of ‘not you.’

The problem with living with lies, the big ones or the little ones, is the baggage buildup. The web of deceit chokes the life out of your essence and clutters the pathways to your brilliance.

These times, with sudden changes and chaotic rumblings, require an economy of energy. You can’t afford to use your most precious resources as scaffolding for a fractured experience. Notice that these roles and habits do not contribute to your wholeness, on the contrary they shatter your connection to the source of your well being.

The good news is that every time you are willing to surrender your thoughts, feelings and perceptions on the altar of what’s true, the gift is always dynamic awareness. And in dynamic awareness you are home, whole, boundless, now.

Image: Follow the Heart, Alice Popkorn

There’s No Place Like Home

Adela Rubio — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 06:00:28 +0000

No ruby red slippers, just coming through on a promise I’ve made colleagues and community to share a picture of the room that has been ‘home’ to me after my husband and I split up 8 months ago. There are several reasons why this was the ‘right’ choice, though not the most comfortable and cushy choice for me. I had the means to live elsewhere, but I was in what I call ‘the ‘tweens,’ that in-between state between your old self and your new self. It has been an extraordinary adventure.

For one thing I got over this idea of home as a ‘place’ where I live. For as long as I can remember I have longed for HOME. My family life was pretty dysfunctional growing up. It has evolved, but back then it was pretty crazy. I dreamed of a place where love reigned and peace infused every space. I got married young, had children when I was a know-it-all twenty-one, got divorced, became a single parent, got married again and still ‘home’ eluded me.

How ironic to have found home when I was feeling home-less. Materially, I was blessed to have family to come home to. My mother always welcomes me with open arms, no matter my tattered state. But this ‘home’ did not have a physical location. It resided somewhere between my belly and my heart. It was an orientation that shifted as my world crumbled around me.

The gift of my homelesseness has been that I have found home where it has always been . . . inside me. In the deep recesses of my boundless being, the infinite grace of life nourishes me and the soul-quenching rivers of possibility beckon me.

I’ve done more in the last 8 months to bring my vision of conscious community and conscious business into being than I ever could have imagined. And . . . I’ve had my most financially successful months too, in a tiny room squeezed between a twin bed and a dresser. Who would have thought that being homeless would bring me home.

Where is home calling YOUR name?

What’s Your True Value?

Adela Rubio — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 06:00:02 +0000

If you’re having trouble in your business, in your job, or in your relationships with the return on your energy investment you might want to explore where you stand with your true value. What shows up in terms of how others perceive you and what you bring to the game is directly related to how ‘you’ see yourself. This energy exchange is as palpable as your heartbeat.

Now I know it may be tempting to tap into a ’stream of self esteem’ but I’m inviting you to a more exciting adventure than that. Let’s go beyond the banks of striving and pulse the power of True Value.

Take a deep breath. Breathe, Relax and Expand fully into your Boundless Being. Dive into the depths of your deep eternal inner. Feel your Essence seeping into every cell in your body, saturating the microcosmic infrastructure of you with what’s True. Who appears in what’s True? Notice the nuances of character, personality, values and gifts. Who is this Being that arises, like Venus from the frothy ocean, fully formed for co-creation?

Bring that being to your work, to your business, to your relationships and notice how a new world materializes before your very eyes. You’ll say things differently, the tone of your voice will shift, there will be words that will become ‘your words.’ Words that open you, that excite you, that solidify what’s true about you. You’ll relate to people differently. You’ll no longer see yourself at the effect of your boss, your spouse or your own self imposed business rules. Your expectations will be unleashed. You’ll feel unrepressed freedom. Your experiences will be fresh and dynamic. You’ll feel open AND eager to take responsibility for the things you truly care for, the things that you’re a steward for.

Accessing your True Value re-engineers your body, re-orchestrates your world and forms the texture of a new you.

Image: Shiny Star Leaf Fringed Weirdly in Tarry Moongate, Quapan

Making a Living or Making a Life?

Adela Rubio — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 06:00:34 +0000

It’s hard to avoid the ‘reality’ of the need for cash flow, right? I mean you need to have a home and food and pay your utility bills. Then there’s the car and the cable and the kids activities.

It’s not really surprising that a lot of your activities, and a lot of your energy, are locked up in ‘making money.’ Ostensibly, to eventually make the life you ‘really’ want.

This uber-focus on making a living delays living your ‘life’. The things that actually generate energy for you, the things you love to do – dance, paint, write, connect – get pushed to the sidelines. Making money is the priority and everything else – family gatherings, personal passions and social events – takes a back seat.

What often happens is that you find your life compartmentalized and fractured. You lose energy, you get tired, your activity levels drop, you lose creativity and eventually you may even start experiencing ‘lifestyle’ health issues like heart disease and diabetes.

What happens next is straight out of a movie, the movie of your life: there is some kind of breakdown. It’s either a breakdown of your work, your family or your health. Though this may initially seem to be bad news it really isn’t. It’s the only way potential can make it’s way into the laser focused pursuit of energy that has gone awry.

As you allow the artificial boundaries between you and the rest of your life to crumble – whether it’s your job, your relationship or your money - you come to understand that there is no separation between you and the rest of your life. You ARE the at cause energy in everything in your life! And in every moment you are the co-creator of your life. This is not a future oriented event. It is occurring in this very moment. So the time to grasp it is at hand.

Here are a few of shifts to reorient your energy to what’s true:

1. Loosen your rein on money as the primary focus of your energy. The more you focus on money as a need, the harder it is to draw it to you. It is actually the result of your energy, not the purpose of it.

2. Every day paint the canvas of your world with the fullness of your being. Feel your abundance, the many ways in which you are gifted. Shower your talents and abilities to the world on a daily basis, profusely. Give! Give! Give! . . . because you have so much it’s overflowing.

3. Every day energetically magnetize your life into being. They might have called it daydreaming in another time and place. I would add the energetic intention and super-connective qualities to this musing and power up your potential like a rocket. Find a space and time when you are relaxed and start with feeling the connection to your self and to all that is. Open and allow your broadband sensing to expand capacity. Feel yourself as abundance itself flowing out like a golden luminescent mist. This mist is the tangible gift of your essence, imbued with your message and service. See how the mist touches the faces of all those who are ready to benefit from your being. Feel the mutual exchange of honor and gratitude. Ripple this knowing into creation and know that you will magnetize the ideas, connections and synchronicities in exquisite timing.

Energy is real. Intention is real. Your super-connective nature is real. By design, you are engineered for possibility and co-creation. Be the Being and create not only abundance for yourself but a life that’s a living legacy.

Image: My Music Box Dancer, Dancer Dallagio

Choose Your Way

Adela Rubio — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 06:00:07 +0000

Ever had one of those moments when you made a decision and then you backed out of it? Then you changed your mind again, alternating between yes and no. It seemed that the more you went back and forth, the more you were gripped by uncertainty, the more you were crippled by the internal chaos precipitated by your doubt and confusion.

What if the problem with this equation were that you were coming from the energetic of decision instead of choice? Decision comes from your intellect, you have a menu of options and you select the one that’s best, depending on what you’d like as the desired outcome. It’s a surface engagement that relies on your history, experience and reasoning.

Often you know when you’ve made a decision because there’s lots of hemming and hawing. Lots of ‘this or that.’ There may even be a calculation of risk to ensure minimal impact.Perhaps it’s that you haven’t made a choice, it’s that you don’t want to experience the results of your decision.

Choice comes from your knowing. It is an act of power that results from a being of sovereignty. You choose because you can and because you feel compelled to do so. It’s a deep engagement,an irresistible power, that arises from within you.

These different levels of engagement give rise to different possibilities. You are not a pre-packaged entity, out of the box with assembly instructions and a care manual. You are a dynamic being come to life. You are in continuous evolution through your choice of action. You are the result of millions of choices. Shape your life here and now, your way.

Choose.

Image: Happiness is Only Real When Shared, Tipiro