How to Embrace the Magic of Endings and Beginnings
Life is a continual cycle of endings and beginnings. This ‘let go and begin again' is something we should be quite practiced in by now.
Beginnings are exciting. They're full of promise, excitement, and an opportunity for change, but greeting the new also means saying goodbye to what you know.
- Saying goodbye to old habits, brings up the uncertainty of ‘what now?'
- Leaving an old relationship, stirs up personal reflection and changes
- Choosing to eat healthier means letting go of your fave junk comfort foods
Leaving the old you behind can be a painful process. You feel bereft of what's familiar and comfortable as you move into the unknown. Beginnings become joyful, painful, exciting and uncertain all at once.
You could stay focused on all of the newness to avoid the wistful goodbyes, but then you miss honoring the very best parts of what came before. By acknowledging the joy and the sorrow, you can bring your loves and lessons into your new beginning.
Ends are not bad things, they just mean that something else is about to begin. And there are many things that don't really end, anyway, they just begin again in a new way. Ends are not bad and many ends aren't really an ending; some things are never-ending.
~ C. JoyBell C.
Whether you eagerly embrace this renewing cycle, or find yourself dragging your feet on the road to the new, here are 7 guiding lights to lead you on a powerful adventure:
1. Get the Gift. Don't move on before you extract the gold from the old. Take a moment to journal about it, write a top 5 list or lessons learned. When you write things down you bring them into consciousness. You get to acknowledge the growth and get the gifts.
2. Let go of what you don't control. Sometimes you choose the ending and sometimes the ending chooses you. You don't always have control of the chess board but you do move the pieces. Choose to act on what you can and let go of the rest. It's not yours to handle.
3. Embrace the moment. This is one of those things that sometimes baffle. How do you do it? Here are 3 simple ways to instantly be in the moment: (1) Spend time focusing on the inflow and outflow of your breath, (2) Commune with nature by going to your favorite place that fills you with wonder and awe, (3) Be with ones you love. Love is the thread that unites all of these. Be love and you're here.
4. Pause often. Take breaks from your thinking and your doing and allow yourself to be. Change can feel chaotic and stressful. When you take a break from it all you can rest in the moment which replenishes your being. Now you can venture into the unknown with confidence and care.
5. Take a chance. Life is full of risks. If you keep saying “No!” you'll never know what delights await you. The magic happens in uncharted territory. If you're in the land of what you know you'll never experience the landscape of possibility.
6. Notice small shifts. Beginnings and endings aren’t always black and white. Notice small shifts in your thinking, feeling and actions. If you pay attention, you can probably notice tiny beginnings and endings all the time. Let them help you navigate the bigger stuff. Give yourself a high-five!
7. Be willing. You might not be ready for something new, but when it’s time, it’s time. Let go of your need to hold on to the past or attempt to control the future. It’s usually completely out of your hands. Instead, simply be open to letting things unfold. Surrender what you know, for what you don't know. It's seeking you too.
Life's adventure is full of twists and turns. Often you don’t know what's next. You have no clue how things will turn out. You have no idea what's down the road, or who you're becoming. No one knows, really. Isn't this the nature of an adventure?
Endings and beginnings are bittersweet. They're also turning points on your evolutionary adventure. When you embrace endings and beginnings as the crossroads of your adventure, magic is possible.
The most authentic endings are the ones which are already revolving towards another beginning. That's genius.
~ Sam Shepard
Whatever ending or beginning is at hand for you, allow yourself to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it. Celebrate each ending and beginning. Honor them and they will shape the context, if not the content, of your adventure. Relish them both!